An excerpt from my latest project that felt too good not to share with you now:
There are a number of tools that I will teach you in this book. In order for them to really work for you, they will require that you change your belief systems about your worth and value.
Don’t worry, I’m going to show you how to do that but for now, I want to share with you the new belief system that I have built for myself. I share this list with you and trust that it will inspire you as you do your own work.
I believe that I can achieve anything I set my mind to.
I believe that my self-worth has nothing to do with my weight, how much money I make, the clothes that I wear or, most importantly, what other people think of me.
I believe that I bring the greatest value to the world when I am simply being myself. Doing what lights me up each and every day.
I believe that I deserve to have it all and that I get to define what that means to me.
I believe that balance is bullshit and that if everyone would stop trying to achieve balance, they might see what they really want from their life.
I believe that passion is easy.
I believe that love is easy.
I believe that dropping the struggle is where it’s at.
I believe that life is abundant.
I believe that my thoughts create my reality and that puts me in charge.
I believe that generosity, kindness, forgiveness, laughter and gratitude are the keys to happiness.
I believe that self-actualization is our job as human beings.
I believe that self-care is the most important care.
I believe that fear and resistance are our greatest teachers.
I believe that the truth really does set you free and that it is only painful when you argue with it.
I believe that my beliefs about life are what make my life what it is – awesome.
I believe that feeling intense and uncomfortable emotions are some of the most beautiful experiences in life.
I believe that our emotions are our inner guidance system to finding our true selves.
I believe that our relationship with food, money, drugs, the internet, other people, whatever is a doorway into our true nature.
I believe that healing is not only possible but inevitable if you are willing to be responsible for your life and do your own work.
I believe that authenticity and being human are never bad promo.
I believe I am worth every second of time I spend on my self-development, my self-care and my self-expression.
I believe that knowing and doing are two different things and that the missing link between the two is feeling our feelings.
I believe that my reaction is about me and that your reaction is about you.
I believe that you might not be on board with my beliefs and that is OK.
What do you believe?
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Wow! Lovely list.
I believe that balance is bullshit and that if everyone would stop trying to achieve balance, they might see what they really want from their life.
This one really caught me off guard…looking forward to seeing you expound on this!
~I believe I found you at the right time~
I’m love this list, and I’m on board with most of this.
“I believe that balance is bullshit and that if everyone would stop trying to achieve balance, they might see what they really want from their life.”
This one caught me off guard too, and I agree with it in the sense that sometimes we get so caught up in balancing the wrong things that we don’t see the forest through the trees, but a lot of life is about balance. Balancing Being and Doing is a big one for me, so is balancing “alone time” with being social, cultivating a balanced approach to money, etc.
I will probably write a whole post on this at some point but to me, when you are doing what you love and loving what you do, there is no “balance”. There is no perfect ratio that works all the time, one that will work forever and ever. So, to me, seeking balance is seeking something that doesn’t exist, it argues with reality, it is searching for control you don’t have.
How many times have you achieved this so called balance only to have life throw you a big fat wrench it?
Life happens the way it is supposed to. And sometimes that means overworking, overplaying, overeating. And the goal of life, to me, is to learn from those things and not getting caught up in what it would have been like if. I think that many people beat themselves up for not being this so called perfection of balance.
Even when you aren’t “balanced” you are still living exactly as you were meant to.
And I’m a libra
So,
See my below reply to McKella.
There can never be balance when fighting for self care / self love / self worth. There is only believing that I come first before everything. When I truly have self love/worth/acceptance then the balance returns naturally
I don’t believe in balance as all important aspects attended to 100% of the time.
However, I believe balance to be simply recognizing the need to put more or less effort or energy into a certain aspect of your life.
For instance, I overworked myself so hard these past two weeks and I recognized that I needed more fun/relaxation. That doesn’t mean that the work/fun balance is 50/50 and I never will expect it to be (or anything for that matter)
I guess what I’m saying is that I do believe in my definition of balance, but I sure as hell don’t believe in “perfect” balance in any form.
But my point is, and yes, there is another post coming – what are you actually trying to achieve when you add more self care?
Life naturally balances itself out, it isn’t something we force ourselves into, and many women beat themselves up when they can’t seem to force it.
My point exactly. What we are really looking for is love, worth and acceptance. Peace. Kindness.
The balance happens naturally when we work for those things, not when we work for balance.
I’m trying to achieve a better quality of life when I add more self care.
If it was all meant to happen the way its supposed to happen, then there is nothing wrong with me recognizing that need and putting more or less energy into it. That’s all part of the plan.
Re “balance” – this is one of those terms I find easier to recognize in its negative form. I once had a discussion with someone that people have a hard time defining “justice” but people have a much more intuitive sense, and common understanding, of what constitutes “injustice.” Similar for me with balance. I don’t necessarily know what balance looks like, but I can very definitely sense and feel when there is “imbalance” in my life – when work outweighs home, carbs outweigh veggies, worries outweight sleep, whatever the case… and it is the attempt to tack back toward balance that is rewarding, not trying to achieve or stay there.
And I’m not saying you are wrong. What I am saying is look for what you truly want – when you define what you really want, it will come more easily to you.
Life will do the balancing part for you.
Oh crap (Libra)- me, too- October 1
I believe that Christie knows what she’s talking about
I agree that balance IS bullshit!!! We can’t control what happens to us as much as we try to. Life is life.
YES!! We try and try and we always lose when we argue with reality!
I think that we ought to seek balance as an end result, but not necessarily as the means to that end. I don’t think of balance as “equal parts this and that,” but more a feeling of ease and steadiness, that we can manage whatever is thrown at us, because internally, emotionally we are balanced. Life is not something that can be balanced.
And it might be that balance for us is completely uneven in some way, at least to others. Balance is finding what works for us.
I want to adopt your belief system. I think I need your book that book you’re talking about.
Be sure to read the post I wrote today as a follow up to this post.
And the book is coming soon. Hopefully by September.
I can tick every one of these points! I <3 you!
Oh, and I think I will return to this post often…